It is not down in any map, true places never are.
Herman Melville
That quote is from Moby Dick, my all time favorite book. It was also the inspiration for the title of my second novel, The Map of True Places (linked to Elizabeth’s review), which is out in paperback. As I embark on the paperback tour, I am talking with readers about the true places their lives, and so today I thought I’d share one of mine.
The maps of our lives have changed so much in recent years. There are the usual life changes: people are born, people die, families break apart, new families are formed. Change happens (to borrow a descriptive quote from Hemingway) gradually then suddenly. A few of our sudden changes have radically shifted our perspective: 911, Columbine, Katrina, the financial meltdown. We’ve recently suffered hurricanes, earthquakes, tsunamis, and a nuclear disaster.
So how do we navigate our lives when our old maps have become obsolete? The answer, I think, lies in finding our own true places: safe havens that are home to us and make us feel like our better selves. Sometimes these places are real. Sometimes they exist only in memory and imagination. Almost always, they are connected to the people we love.
The truest place in my life is a real one, a Victorian summer-house on a lake in New Hampshire. It was built by my great grandfather more than a century ago and has been handed down through the generations. The camp hasn’t changed much in those hundred years, which makes it easier to conjure images of the people who have touched my life there, some who are still with me, many who have long since gone.
Standing in the old fashioned kitchen, I don’t have to look far to summon a memory. Over there is the bucket my grandmother gave us to pick blueberries for the pies and muffins she always made. Here is the megaphone my father used to call us back when we swam too far from shore. There’s the soapstone sink in the kitchen and the hand-pump we primed at the beginning of every summer with water from the lake. I can still hear the creaky slamming of the back door and the laughing of children as they rush in and out.
In the washroom across the hall, the medicine cabinet door won’t close properly. I can see my mother’s compact on the glass shelf, and I can see her too, standing in front of the mirror, her lips pursed as she applies Revlon Fire Engine Red lipstick, blots it with tissue, then puts on another coat.
In my true place, my mother still gets dressed to go dancing. She is not confined to her RA wheelchair. My father doesn’t shake from Parkinson’s. I don’t find him scared and frozen in place in the back hall but rather out on the porch playing with the dogs or pitching horseshoes with the uncles. My grandmother, gone many years now, is still the outspoken matriarch who so frustrated her son-in-law, my father, that one day he locked her in the pan closet in the kitchen and wouldn’t let her out until she promised to be nice to him, which she was from then on.
In my true place, I can bring all of the generations back to life at once. My reverie supposes that time is non-linear, and that all the characters exist in their happiest moments. People who never knew each other gather together for a weekend celebration. A favorite uncle who read stories to me when I was little reads the same stories now to my brother’s grandchildren. My first dog, Skybo, rolls on the front lawn with my sixteen year old golden retriever whose hip dysplasia has miraculously healed. Pine needles hang from their ears, and moss sticks to their muzzles. My grandmother sits on the front porch shelling peas with the great granddaughter she never knew.
My true place is always sunny and warm, except at about 4PM each day when a quick thunderstorm follows the curve of the White Mountains and moves swiftly across our little lake. We giggle and run for cover. The storm disappears as quickly as it has come. There may or may not be a rainbow.
We gather for dinner around the big oak table in the dining room, under the clock that has ticked the minutes away since the day the camp was built. When I was a child, the sound seemed so loud that it sometimes kept me from sleep. These days, its ticking is just as loud, I am told, but I cannot hear it unless I’m in the same room. The sixteen-inch rainbow trout my grandfather’s brother caught when he was a young boy is still mounted above the door, and the piano, always off key from the cold that sets in after Labor Day, still sits un-tuned in the corner by the window.
After dinner is over, my grandfather goes to the piano and plays any tune we can think of, in any key, and my aunt sits on top of the piano belting out God Bless America in her best Kate Smith. After that, we play canasta or go for a late swim. The little children fall asleep on the rug where they have dropped from exhaustion and have to be carried up to bed.
My truest place, though real, has the luxury of fantasy. I am, after all, a fiction writer. Fantasy has always been easier for me than reality. Still, this place, with all of its reflected memories, is more real to me than anything in my everyday world, and I hold it in my heart. If all goes well, the family will gather here again next year, and it will, summer after summer, become a true place for the next generations.
Whether real of imagined, true places are more important than ever in these times of great and sometimes devastating change. I wish for true places, real, imagined, or simply remembered for all those who are suffering today.
I’ve told you about the place I hold dear. What are some of your true places?
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© 2011 Brunonia Barry, author of The Map of True Places, As originally published on “The Lipstick Chronicles”
Born and raised in Massachusetts, Brunonia Barry, lives in Salem with her husband and their beloved golden retriever, Byzantium. Barry is the first American Writer to win the Woman’s International Fiction Festival’s 2009 Baccante Award (for The Lace Reader). Her second novel, The Map of True Places is out in paperback now.
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Carolyn says
I already love the book due to this post! My true place is my family summer cottage on Lake Ontario. My memories awoke with yours. My cousins running in and out banging the screen door, picking berries on the walk up the hill from the beach, uncles careening around the corner on an ancient golf cart… And bringing my own children to the same spot each summer, where they sleep in mommy’s old bed and listen for the scritch-scratching of the chipmunks in the walls, and making the nightly walk to the top of the cliff to watch the sunset. “That was a beauty.”
Mama Bear says
This was a wonderful post…I could certainly relate to all of it. My parents have gone home…my Mother had Parkinson’s Disease….
One of my true places would be sitting under the shade trees in their yard in the summertime, peeling peaches or shelling peas, watching people we know pass by on the road and wave from their cars as we talk to each other, sometimes reminiscing about days gone by….can you hear the laughter…I almost can
Mama Bear
Cindi says
One of my fondest memories of my mom is her
love of flower gardening. My childhood was
spent surrounded by beautiful flowers, bushes
and trees of all types and colors. My true
place goes back to a huge garden of Cannas
that were planted yearly in our side yard!
My two friends and I would have a lovely tea
party very often, right in the middle of the
beautiful Canna garden. Sometimes, we were
given the company of a rabbit or squirrel while
sipping our tea. The memories of my true
place always makes me smile…
Many thanks, Cindi
Ruthie B says
What a wonderful post & it brought so many memories! We have a small summer beach home where the entire family meets the week of July 4th every year so I’m sure memories have already been made with hopefully many more to come!
connie black says
What a great sounding book. My true place is a little pond called Burgess Lake. Love to just sit there and watch my children fish and enjoy their childhood.
Elizabeth says
You won! Congrats! Please email us your address, and enjoy your new book.
Some Lucky Dog says
I can no longer visit my true place in person, but I can close my eyes and experience it all again…my grandparents farm. I can sit on the porch with my grandma shelling the peas we just picked from the garden and listening to stories of her parents and grandparents. Later I go the field and pitch the newly cut hay up onto the wagon that grandpa is pulling behind the tractor. We eat supper at noon then get back to work. We feed the pigs, rabbits, and chickens and then make some freezer jam from the berries we’d picked earlier in the day. After dinner we sit under the apple tree and tell more stories. When it’s dark grandma tucks me safely into the big cozy bed in the green room with white trim. She reads me the story about the little old lady and I fall asleep into my dreams of another day on the farm…
Annette W says
Though I love the farm of my husband’s grandparents…sitting on the porch watching all of the work happen in the fields and by the barn…
I think my true place may be in my backyard. It’s relaxing to watch our Amish neighbor work the fields with his horses or listen to the cows eat grass when they are out to pasture.
In the backyard my four year old has mastered swinging high-by herself on our swingset. It’s in the backyard that fill up the kiddie pool and listen to the giggles and splashing.
But, really, I love the nights when we gather wood for the fire pit. Our children are young, but not too young to enjoy the quietness of the fire and a special snack. Sticky fingers remind us of the s’mores we have enjoyed. My husband and I relax together under the stars, sharing about life and plan for the future after the children go to bed.
I’m thankful my true place is my home.
Barb says
My “true place” is Israel. Yes, I mean the country of Israel.
I know, I know — it seems an odd choice. You see, I lived there the year after I graduated from high school. I was all of 17 years old. It was such an important time in my life. All the feelings I had, as well as the learning and growing that I did that year, are inexorably linked to the location.
The gloriously beautiful desert, the fiercely patriotic people, and the enormous weight of history are almost palpable in the Israeli air. Mixed with that, in my memory, is the confidence I gained as a capable, independent adult. I clearly recall my sense of mastery as I learned to speak the Hebrew language, navigate a foreign country’s buses and trains, and make friends far from home.
Is my “true place” real or imagined? Well, obviously, it’s a real location. However, I’m certain that the embellishments of nostalgia add significantly to its importance in my memory.
Ah, youth…
Elizabeth says
You won! Great memory–we loved the combination of youth to adulthood with an actual place. Please email us your address and enjoy your new book!
Carol M says
My true place is wherever my family is. That’s where I want to be.
This sounds really good! Thank you for the chance to win a copy!
Natalia says
Kazakhstan, the country I was born in. The sky there has such special color you never meet it in other places. And mountains!
Linda Kish says
I would love to read this book. I don’t know if I have any true places in my life other than where I am at the time.
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Karen Gonyea says
Sounds like an incredible book 🙂
Hailey says
My true place is the beach at “that moment”. That split second when everything is silent. Everyone inhales at the same moment, the waves are just before crashing, the kids are not screaming… that split second is Heaven on Earth.
I wrote about it here last summer when it first happened to me… http://thelafones.blogspot.com/2010/04/small-things-are-what-matter-most.html