How to be a Best Friend Forever

by Jennifer


Five Best Friendship Rules to Live By

adapted from How to Be a Best Friend Forever

Is there room for more than one BFF in your life?

While some people prefer to have a #1 friend, Dr. Townsend says we need more than one best friend because each person brings a certain set of qualities to a relationship. Variety is the spice of life and BF should be a plural term.

What about best friends of the opposite sex?

Dr. Townsend says, exercise caution. Sharing feminine and masculine viewpoints helps balance us, grow us, and make us better people, but close opposite-sex relationships can bring fear and insecurity into our romantic relationships. If that’s the case, both people should spend time with the BF, so the other person feels safe, loved, and assured that everything is on the up and up.

What if your spouse or your sister is your BFF?

You might be limiting your own growth because you are operating in a closed system. And if your husband or wife is your best friend, you risk smothering them and your marriage. Dr. Townsend encourages connections outside the comfort zone of family.

Does Facebook make friendships better or worse?

Digital connection is essentially neutral in friendships, but it does have drawbacks. It acts is a magnifying glass, making good friendships seem better and negative issues larger than they are. It also lends to “Instantaneous Dependency,” where a person over-relies on external views, too afraid to trust their own.

What if you don’t have a BFF?

Look for 3 must-have elements, “the DNA of friendship”: knowing, liking, and presence. Knowing allows you to evaluate how deep the relationship will go. Next, are you drawn to each other? Liking serves as an anesthetic to get over rough patches. And third is time spent together. The more time you share, the better the relationship.

If you’d like to win your own copy of How to Be a Best Friend Forever: Making and Keeping Lifetime Relationships, you need to click through to my review on 5 Minutes for Mom and leave a comment. U.S. and Canadian addresses are eligible.

You can also earn extra chances by responding to one of these points in the comments here, and/or on What Friendship Means to Me over at my own blog. I’d love to hear your thoughts on friendship!

However, you must read the full review and comment over at 5 Minutes for Mom first to be eligible.

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Jennifer lives in Houston with her family. In addition to reading, she enjoys travel, Bible study, food, and fun. She blogs about some of these things -- when her nose isn't in a book -- at Snapshot.

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{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Garrett January 18, 2012 at 8:05 am

Sounds like a good book and that many of us could benefit from too.


2 Rose January 19, 2012 at 1:32 am

I could certainly use this book. I have always been the shy type so making friends has always been a challenge for me. I did manage to make it down the isle though.


3 Jeanne January 21, 2012 at 11:21 pm

Would love to win this book. Thank you for this giveaway. :) Jeanne


4 Heather Diotte January 30, 2012 at 12:48 pm

I’d love to read the “How to Be a Best Friend Forever: Making and Keeping Lifetime Relationships”


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